Love - Why?
How predictable to write about love in the month of February, but I just could not resist. This time, though, I thought it woud be interesting to investigate what people think the qualities are in others, which causes them to fall in love. I am not talking about physical attraction, because this is usually the first queue that calls us to action, but, rather, what is it about someone which keeps us coming back for more? Which keeps the object of our affection in the forefront of our mind? Which places them in our heart and soul so that they are our first thought upon awakening and our last thought before retiring? I put out a Facebook feeler but got very scant feedback, but those who did reply were very eloquent. I emailed some special friends for their input, and personally interviewed others. Originally, I was looking to see if men were looking for different qualities than were women, and to see if there was a common trend, but I did not gather nearly enough data to flesh that out. Perhaps next year. And so- I would like to share with you the common and uncommon threads of their contributions. Because I am lazy, I am not going to attempt to prioritize or catagorize my findings, but rather pour them out onto this page for your enjoyment.
COMPLEMENTING AND BALANCING EACH OTHER
SENSE OF HUMOR
WILLINGNESS TO WORK TOGETHER AS A TEAM
BEING INTERESTING AND INTERESTED
WILLING TO PUT IN EFFORT TO REACH A COMMON GOAL
DESIRING THE OTHER
FEELING DESIRED BY THE OTHER.
FEELING COMPLETE WHEN IN THEIR PRESENCE
BEING ABLE TO LEARN FROM THEM
BEING ABLE TO TEACH THEM WHAT YOU KNOW
TRUSTING THEM WITH YOUR SECRETS
WANTING TO PROTECT THEM
FEELING PROTECTED WHEN YOU ARE WITH THEM
YOU ARE MORE INTERESTED IN WHAT YOU CAN DO TO PLEASE THEM THAN IN WHAT THEY CAN DO TO PLEASE YOU.
I am sure that there are many that I missed, but I think this is a pretty good place to begin. And now I will wax poetic. ( I just love a good platiude! ) To me love is akin to the feeling when putting cold hands into warm water. Enveloping. Accepting. Pleasing. Memorable. Once you have experienced it, your life is forever changed. It is that electrical feeling of mutual understanding and communing. Where you feel that your truth is understood and that you understand your mate. The feeling of never being bored- just being next to your love is enough- no matter where you are. I believe this force is truly what makes the world go round!
HAPPY VALENTINE'S DAY!
WRITE A LOVE LETTER
SEND SOME FLOWERS
BAKE A CAKE
VISIT A FRIEND
DRAW A PICTURE
GO FOR A WALK
READ SOME POETRY
WATCH A ROMANTIC MOVIE
SHARE A MEAL
BE GRATEFUL TO BE COGNIZANT OF THIS HUMAN GIFT WE CAN EXPERIENCE.
BBC- Barbeque Bacon Chicken- Easy cheesy weeknight supper
2 pounds chicken tenders ( I use Trader Joe's Bag in the freezer )
6 slices thick cut bacon cut into one inch squares
1/2 cup of your favorite barbeque sauce
2 cups shredded cheddar
Preheat the oven to 350º In a large frying pan, place the bacon and chicken and fry about 15 minutes until cooked most of the way through. Place in a baking dish. drizzle barbeque sauce on top of meat, then top with shredded cheese. Bake 30 minutes. I served it with leftover mashed potatoes. Very tasty and filling.
(Jewel's Valentine to you!)
Find a lovely place in nature... your back yard, your front yard, a park, a garden etc.
Sit and settle. Look around and just take in the beauty and miracle of nature. Try not to think about anything else.
Take a deep breath all the way down to your toes, and let it out slowly with a big outward sigh, letting all of your stress go with it. Repeat as needed.
Take some time to appreciate the design of all of the natural life forms. The symmetry of the leaves and flowers. And the asymmetry- the way the sun rays drip through the leaves of the trees and the wending branches.
Notice how the sun feels on your skin, and also the gentle breeze- if you are fortunate to experience warm sun and gentle breezes in February, as I am. You can feel these sensations but you cannot see them. Acknowledge that there is so much more to life than what can be seen.
Close your eyes and just listen to the sounds around you. I like to sit next to running water. Or even a ticking clock if you must remain inside.
If your thoughts wander off to laundry land or what's for dinner diversion, just let the thought pass and come back to the listening moment.
Sometimes I like to role play that I am a tree or a rock, content with my existence. Nothing expected of me but to just be.
I am the rock in the stream, slowly changing as the water flows over me.
I am the tree in the garden, grounded by my roots. Reaching for the stars. Offering shelter and shade and nourishment while expecting nothing in return.
Externally, I change with the seasons but my core does not change. I observe all that happens around me, but I do not need to go anywhere or to seek anything. All that I need comes to me naturally.
Nothing is expected. I am just as I need to be. I expect nothing- all is just as it should be. There is beauty and balance.
"When love is not madness, it is not love."
Pedro Calderon de la Barca
"Oh, if it be to choose and call thee mine, love, thou art every day my Valentine!"
"Many are the starrs I see, but in my eye no starr like thee."
English phrase on poesy rings
"Loving is not just looking at each other, it's looking in the same direction."
Antoine de Saint-Expuery, Wind, Sand, and Stars, 1939
"Gravitation is not responsible for people falling in love."
"I don't understand why Cupid was chosen to represent Valentine's Day. When I think about romance, the last thing on my mind is a short, chubby toddler coming at me with a weapon."
"For you see, each day I love you more
Today more than yesterday and less than tomorrow."
"Love is a symbol of eternity. It wipes out all sense of time, destroying all memory of a beginning and all fear of an end."
"Love - a wildly misunderstood although highly desirable malfunction of the heart which weakens the brain, causes eyes to sparkle, cheeks to glow, blood pressure to rise, and the lips to pucker."
"Trip over love, you can get up. Fall in love and you fall forever."
"Anyone can catch your eye, but it takes someone special to catch your heart."
"A hundred hearts would be too few
To carry all my love for you."
"You have to walk carefully in the beginning of love; the running across fields into your lover's arms can only come later when you're sure they won't laugh if you
Jonathan Carroll "Outside The Dog Museum"
"We are all a little weird and life's a little weird, and when we find someone whose weirdness is compatible with ours, we join up with them and fall in mutual weirdness and call it love."
"Love is a smoke made with the fume of sighs."
"kisses are a better fate than wisdom."
"If love is blind, why is lingerie so popular?"
"Who, being loved, is poor?"
"In melody divine,
My heart it beats to rapturous love,
I long to call you mine."
"Grow old with me! The best is yet to be."
"Without love, what are we worth? Eighty-nine cents! Eighty-nine cents worth of chemicals walking around lonely."
Hawkeye, from M*A*S*H
"The hours I spend with you I look upon as sort of a perfumed garden, a dim twilight, and a fountain singing to it. You and you alone make me feel that I am alive. Other men it is said have seen angels, but I have seen thee and thou art enough."
"Love is the magician that pulls man out of his own hat."
"Time is too slow for those who wait, too swift for those who fear, too long for those who grieve, too short for those who rejoice, but for those who love, time is eternity."
Henry Van Dyke
"A bell is no bell 'til you ring it,
A song is no song 'til you sing it,
And love in your heart
Wasn't put there to stay -
Love isn't love
'Til you give it away."
Oscar Hammerstein, "You Are Sixteen" from the film Sound of Music
"I've fallen in love many times...always with you."
"Love is a game that two can play and both win."
"We don't believe in rheumatism and true love until after the first attack."
Marie Ebner Von Eschenback, Aporism
"Love, and a cough, cannot be hid."
George Herbert in Jacula Prudentum 1651
"I love thee - I love thee,
'Tis all that I can say
It is my vision in the night,
My dreaming in the day."
"The most beautiful view is the one I share with you."
"You don't marry someone you can live with - you marry the person who you cannot live without."
"A kiss is a lovely trick designed by nature to stop speech when words become superfluous."
"True love is like ghosts, which everybody talks about and few have seen."
"Falling in love is so hard on the knees."
"Love is a canvas furnished by Nature and embroidered by imagination."
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After being married for thirty years, a wife asked her husband to describe her. He looked at her for awhile, then said, "You're an alphabet wife ... A, B, C, D, E, F, G, H, I, J, K."
She asked, "What the heck does that mean?"
He said, "Adorable, Beautiful, Cute, Delightful, Elegant, Foxy, Gorgeous, and Hot."
She smiled happily and said, "Oh, that's so lovely ... But what about I, J, K?"
He said, "I'm Just Kidding!"
The swelling in his eye is going down and the doctor is cautiously optimistic about saving his testicles.
Q: What did the stamp say to the envelope on Valentine's Day?
A: I'm stuck on you!
Q: Why is lettuce the most loving vegetable?
A: Because it's all heart.
Q: What do squirrels give for Valentine's Day?
Q: What is a vampire's sweetheart called?
A: His ghoul-friend.
Q: Why did the banana go out with the prune?
A: Because it couldn't get a date.
Q: What happens when you fall in love with a french chef?
A: You get buttered up.
Q: What did the caveman give his wife on Valentine's Day?
A: Ughs and kisses!
Q: What did the paper clip say to the magnet?
A: I find you very attractive.
Q: What did the elephant say to his girlfriend?
A: I love you a ton!
Q: What did one pickle say to the other?
A: You mean a great dill to me.
Q: What do you call a very small Valentine?
A: A Valentiny!
Q: What did the light bulb say to the switch?
A: You turn me on.
Q. What did the boy bird say to the girl bird on Valentine's Day?
A. Let me call you Tweet heart!
Q. What did the boy cat say to the girl cat on Valentine's Day?
A. You're purrr-fect for me!
Q: What did the boy octopus say to the girl octopus?
A: Can I hold your hand, hand, hand, hand, hand, hand, hand, hand, hand, hand?
Q: What did one snake say to the other snake?
A: Give me a little hug and a hiss, honey.
Q: If your aunt ran off to get married, what would you call her?
Q: What do farmers give their wives on Valentine's Day?
A: Hogs and Kisses!
Q: Why is Valentine's Day the best day for a celebration?
A: Because you can really party hearty!
Q: What did the cholcolate syrup say to the ice cream?
A: "I'm sweet on you!"
Q: What did the painter say to her boyfriend?
A; "I love you with all my art!"
Q: What kind of flowers do you never give on Valentine's Day?
Q: Did you hear about the nearsighted porcupine?
A: He fell in love with a pin cushion!
Q: What did the pencil say to the paper?
A: I dot my i's on you!
Q: What did the valentines day card say to the stamp? A: Stick with me and you'll go places
Q: Do skunks celebrate Valentine's Day? A: Sure, they are very scentamental.
Q: What is the difference between you and a calendar? A: A calendar has a date on Valentine's Day.
Q: What did the man with a broken leg say to his nurse? A: I've got a crutch on you.
Q: What did the French chef give to his wife on Valentine's Day? A: A hug and a quiche.
Q: What did one pickle say to another? A: You mean a great dill to me.
Q: What did the bat say to his girlfriend? A: You are fun to hang around with.
Q: What happened when the man fell in love with his garden? A: It made him wed his pants.
Q: What did one oar say to the other oar? A: Can I interest you in a little row-mance?
Roses are red, violets are blue, if he's busy on Valentine's Day, the side chick is you!
"Poetry spills from the cracks of a broken heart, but flows from one which is loved."
Christopher Paul Rubero
"A man is not where he lives, but where he loves."
"Tell me how many beads there are
In a silver chain
Of evening rain,
Unraveled from the tumbling main,
And threading the eye of a yellow star:
So many times do I love again."
Thomas Lovell Beddoes
"True love stories never have endings."
"Nobody has ever measured, even poets, how much a heart can hold."
"Love is missing someone whenever you're apart, but somehow feeling warm inside because you're close in heart."
"Ah me! Love can not be cured by herbs."
"Soul meets soul on lovers' lips."
Percy Bysshe Shelley
"Love is the silent saying and saying of a single name."
Mignon McLaughlin, The Neurotic's Notebook, 1960
"You know when you have found your prince because you not only have a smile on your face but in your heart as well."
"Love puts the fun in together, the sad in apart, and the joy in a heart."
"Love is like dew that falls on both nettles and lilies."
"How did it happen that their lips came together? How does it happen that birds sing, that snow melts, that the rose unfolds, that the dawn whitens behind the stark shapes of trees on the quivering summit of the hill? A kiss, an all was said."
"Love is an irresistible desire to be irresistibly desired."
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