1. happiness; well-being.
2. Aristotelianism. happiness as the result of an active life governed by reason.
I can't remember exactly where I came across this word, but I think it was a word of the day on Dictionary.com. I wasn't familiar with it, but for some reason, it just resonated with me. Those of you who have been faithful readers of the Muse (aka my blog) understand that I struggle daily with trying to get it all done, or, at the very least, trying to get the bare minimum done. I am afflicted with this problem both at home and at work. To be trite (as I love to be) too much to do- too little time.
I remember being a little kid and hearing my mom sigh and say, "aahhhhh if only we had more time." I was always puzzled when she said this. More time for what? Chores? Sleep? (I could certainly use more time for each of these now!) I was content with the amount of free time that I had. I had more than enough time to sleep, eat, play outside, go to school, study, draw, read, play with my friends, hang out with my brothers, do crafts etc. In fact, I sometimes grew bored.
Well, now I know the reason why my mom often said this. It was because my mom did so much for me, so I could pursue what I wanted to do. Just as I try to do it all so that my kids can pursue what they like to do. Hubby is out of the loop because he has been working round the clock. He isn't getting to do what he wants to do right now, but he offers it up because he is a good man. I remind the kids that we are very fortunate to be so well taken care of. With him gone from 7:30 until 2 AM M-F ( don't ask me how any human could keep going at this pace and survive- must be that good German stock!) I have had to resume doing the dreaded laundry (boy I miss him doing that!) I am it for doctor appointment, soccer practice and teen job shuttling. I find little moments of peace when I can, and always make sure I never leave the house without reading material- just in case I find myself with a "free" moment.
Right now I am choosing to write this blog over watching a movie with the kids as I promised I would do. I am choosing it over reading the Book Club book that I need to have read in two weeks (I plan to cheat and watch the movie!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!) I am choosing it over mopping the floor, reading today's newspaper (I can do that on Friday like I always do.) But I have to blog now since we will once again be gone all weekend and I won't be able to bust it out on Sunday night like I usually do (my excuse for all of the typos!)
But my point is not to complain about being busy, as I am sure it must seem I am doing. I've already tried complaining and it just doesn't make a difference. I am just trying to learn to live more gracefully. As Eckhart Tolle extolls in- "The Power of Now".If I get more than say 15 minutes ahead of myself, I start stressing and worrying aobut how I will get it all done. The thinking about it is the big mistake. Better to just write down the must dos on the dry erase board on the fridge, and then let it go. Somehow it all works out. Everyone gets where they need to get (although it does take some planning sometimes!)
My point is to try to live by the Aristotelian meaning of Eudomonia: happiness as the result of an active life governed by reason. My life is certainly active- governed by reason could be up for debate. I was talking with my aunt, who is taking care of her aging in laws. Her two kids are grown, she is a grandma of two delightful angels, and is helping her son and his fiancee plan their wedding. She'd love to be focusing on her grandchildren and son's wedding plans, but needs to tend to the demented in laws' needs first because if she doesn't, who will? She chuckled and reminded me that I have 3 sets of "parents". I reminded her that I am blessed with bounty.
This got me to thinking, childhood was pretty mellow. Then I grew up and worked and went to school. One or the other would have been plenty. After I graduated, I worked two jobs. Then married hubby who is number 8 out of 12 kids! That's akin to marrying into two families! That's a big beautiful family. And I am part f a blended family, so there is always something going on, often requiring pot luck meal prepping. Good thing I like to cook. And I didn't start out with one baby, but twins and then added Buddah and Princess..So I wonder- am I really busier than most- or does it just seem that way?
To be trite again, nature abhors a vacuum. I abhor a vacuum too- but only the kind that makes a lot of noise. I fantasize about experiencing a vacuum which, according to dictinary.com is:
1. Absence of matter.
2. A space empty of matter.
3. A space relatively empty of matter.
4. A space in which the pressure is significantly lower than atmospheric pressure.
I recently got so overwhelmed with the day- to- day- to- do- demands ( try saying that out loud- it feels like a foreign language!) that I just about had a nervous breakdown. So I had to take some course of action, and I ended up joining my neighbor for the Yoga classes offered at LA Fitness on Monday and Thursday evenings at 8 PM and Saturdays at 11 AM. I used to do yoga everyday. Well, I am really enjoying it- especially the 5 minute meditations at the end. If I am really on a roll, I might buy myself a vanilla latte afterwards, and then I can take on the dog diarrhea and screaming children that might be waiting for me when I get home. I'm reading books by Dr. Wayne W. Dyer which are fantastic. Now there's some eudomonia! Computer Boy and I have our standing Tuesday night date at Border's after I pick him up from work. It is heavenly, and I get to peruse new books without interruption while he selects his Manga comic books.
And part of this unbridled hedonism is owed to yet another quote I read at work, "How we spend our days is, of course, how we spend our lives." By Annie Dillard. So true! You can break it down to how we spend our minutes, is how we spend our lives. So I have decided to enjoy what each minute has to offer, and to experience my happiness as a result of my active life governed by reason. And here is one more quote while we are at it, "Mine is not to question why, mine is just to do or die." (I forgot who said that and the "mines" might have been "yours's") But it really is true. Don't fret with the questions for which there are no answers. Just do what I gotta do the best that I can do it. Get out from under the comparing my life to others'. Yeah yeah, it all sounds good on paper, but it is hard for me to implement on a daily basis.
Before I quit comparing, let me just mention this- I have a friend who is a full time surgical nurse with four teen aged boys one at UCLA, others in scouts and various sports, and a delightful husband. She comes from a large family, and God only knows, she has got to be busier than I am- yet she is always so serene. I so enjoy talking with her when we happen to have a moment. We could yammer for hours but rarely get to. I ran into her and her husband shopping together at Trader Joe's when I ran in to grab some frozen goods and the Crown Rolls that Soccer Boy consumes, after dropping Computer boy off at his job. It was almost as if they were on a date. I was so envious. Will my hubby and I ever get to stroll through Trader Joe's together? We used to P.K., but I think those days might be over. Maybe when the kids are grown we'll do yoga together. That would be my idea of Eudomonia!
The 10 Great Paramis from The Discourse Summaries from S. N. Goenka
(Parami means "good mental qualities" )
1. Nekkhamma- Renunciation- Let go of Ego
2. Sila- Morality- do the right thing
3. Viriya- Effort- Always do your best
4. Panna- Wisdom- Always seek to learn and grow
5. Khanti- Tolerance-Accept others for who and how they are
6. Sacca- Truth- Speak, feel and live in truth.
7. Adhitthana- Strong Deterrmination- Don't give up- Finish what you start.
8. Metta- Pure Selfless Love- Wish happiness on others
9. Upekkha- Equanimity- Keep the balance of mind
10. Dana- Charity- Help others in whatever way one can.
May all beings be happy!
Quotes from Everyday Wisdom by Dr. Wayne W. Dyer
Anything you must have comes to own you. Ironically, when you release it, you start getting more of it.
We can only give away to others what we have inside ourselves.
Everything in the universe flows. You can't get ahold of water by clutching it. Let your hand relax, and you can experience it.
You are not a human being having a spiritual experience. You are a spiritual being having a human experience.
Three things clog your soul- negativity- judgement- and imbalance.
What you see is evidence of what you believe. Believe it and you'll see it.
All of your behavior results from the thoughts that precede it.
Nothing is formed. Nothing dies. Everything is simply in transition.
If you can control your thoughts, and your feelings come from your thoughts, then you control your feelings.
Behavior is a much better barometer of what you are than words.
Each place along the way is somewhere you had to be to be here.
I finally realized that other people are simply going to be exactly the way they are, independent of my opinion about them.
Everything that you are against can be restated in a way that puts you in support of something. Instead of being against war, be for peace. Instead of being against poverty, be for prosperity. Instead of joining a war on drugs, be for purity in our youth.
When you squeeze an orange you get orange juice because that's what's inside. The very same principle is true about you. When someone squeezes you- puts pressure on you- what comes out is what's inside. And if you don't like what's inside, you can change it by changing your thoughts.
Some people think that they are their packaging. Your body is nothing more than your garage where you temporarily park your soul.
One song! That is our uni (one) verse (song). No matter how we separate into individual notes, we are all still involved in the one song.
And- doesn't anyone know a J. Davis who lost an iPod? Email Jewel if you do. See the July 07 archive.
Look through the picture and tell me what you see!
By the way, the anti inflammatories did help our poor feeble dog. See Archive January 08
Time In A Bottle
by Jim Croche
If I could save time in a bottle
The first thing that Id like to do
Is to save every day
Till eternity passes away
Just to spend them with you
If I could make days last forever
If words could make wishes come true
Id save every day like a treasure and then,
Again, I would spend them with you
But there never seems to be enough time
To do the things you want to do
Once you find them
Ive looked around enough to know
That youre the one I want to go
Through time with
If I had a box just for wishes
And dreams that had never come true
The box would be empty
Except for the memory
Of how they were answered by you
But there never seems to be enough time
To do the things you want to do
Once you find them
Ive looked around enough to know
That you're the one I want to go
Through time with.
"Fortnight" is a contraction of "fourteen nights." In the US "two weeks" is more commonly used.
A 'jiffy' is an actual unit of time for 1/100th of a second.
Any month that starts on a Sunday will have a Friday the 13th in it.
Easter is the first Sunday after the first Full Moon after March 21.
England and the American colonies adopted the Gregorian calendar on September 14th, 1752. 11 days disappeared.
Flying from London to New York by Concord, due to the time zones crossed, you can arrive 2 hours before you leave.
If the sun stopped shining suddenly, it would take eight minutes for people on earth to be aware of the fact.
Light travels at the rate of 186,200 miles a second.
More than 99.9% of all the animal species that have ever lived on earth were extinct before the coming of man.
The monastic hours are matins, lauds, prime, tierce, sext, nones, vespers and compline.
The wristwatch was invented in 1904 by Louis Cartier.
There are 31,557,600 seconds in a year.
The average person gets 1 interruption every 8 minutes, or approximately 7 an hour, or 50-60 per day. The average interruption takes 5 minutes, totaling about 4 hours or 50% of the average workday. 80% of those interruptions are typically rated as "little value" or "no value" creating approximately 3 hours of wasted time per day.
By taking 1 hour per day for independent study, 7 hours per week, 365 hours in a year, one can learn at the rate of a full-time student. In 3-5 years, the average person can become an expert in the topic of their choice, by spending only one hour per day.
95% of the things we fear will occur, do not occur.
Taking 5 minutes per day, 5 days per week to improve ones job will create 1,200 little improvements to a job over a 5 year period.
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