Gains & Losses
The longer I live, the more mysterious the world becomes. You'd think that with age and experience comes wisdom and knowledge, but the longer I live, the more questions I seem to have. My curiosity often gets me into all sorts of trouble with the kids. I want to know everything- with all of the details. The two golden haired children are pretty good about sharing, one shares very well, and I don't even have to beg ( I'll let you guess which one??? ) The two brown haired children - wait they aren't children anymore- well, one will share if I ask, and the other refuses to appease my curiosity ( again- I'll let those of you who know us try to guess.)
So as I was driving up the endless 5 freeway, I had a lot of time to muse about whatever came to mind. As I was hoping to make the drive in the 5 1/2 hours Google Maps had forecasted, I was a little bit perturbed when I got stuck in a bit of traffic, and kept noticing the ETA readjusting to later and later. But then, the traffic opened up, and I was able to make good time for quite some time, but it seemed that I could not recoup the "lost" time. This got me to thinking about gains and losses and how, oftentimes, they seem so very disproportionate in terms of energy in and energy out. The first example being that the 20 minutes lost in traffic could not be compensated for by driving over the speed limit for the next 2 hours. Now this is the kind of math they ought to be teaching our kids in class. Who cares about Trigonomety? If it will take 5 hours and 30 minutes to travel 320 miles when traveling at 70 mph, and you lose 20 minutes in traffic, how fast do you need to speed and for how long in order to "make up" the lost time? I'd just like to see the equation for that.
Of course this got me to thinking about other such gain / loss unequal relationships. Of course the tried and true- it seems to take so much more energy to lose weight than to gain weight- when it seems to me that logic would have it the other way ( not weigh ) around. But the math for this is pretty simple, it is far easier to consume an extra 3500 calories ( a piece of lasagna followed by a slice of cheesecake ) very easy to eat in one meal, but to counter it, you'd have to go for 2 days on rice cakes and celery sticks. Doesn't seem fair. Of course there are those who suffer from not being able to gain weight but that is one malady I would welcome- at least for a few weeks.
Summa Cum Laude graduating girl brought up the excellent example of GPA. You can have a perfect score in your class. Blow it on one test, and the 4.0 drops. No matter how many times you get a perfect score after that, you can not return to the 4.0. Not very encouraging in my opinion. Seems to me that one perfect score should counter one failing score- so that you would be back to the starting point. Next score should be the class average- so one A is an A GPA. Followed by an F brings you to scratch. Next grade an A and you have an A in the class, not a C+. I would be a nice teacher.
What about trust? With many folks it can take a very long time to gain their trust but very little to lose it. Kind of like tying to uncook an egg. Once cooked, always cooked.
Another example is Education. You can gain it, but can you ever lose it?
Power- takes a while to gain but can be lost in an instant. Also can be gained in an instant depending on the circumstances.
Investments, can take a long time to grow them, but they can be lost with one bad decision, as I recently learned in my 5 month game of virtual investing on MarketWatch.com. Thank God it was virtual money. Soccer Boy doubled his virtual investment, too bad it was virtual money. If we had used real cash, he would have earned far more than I lost- so in this example, it is volatile in both directions.
A tablespoon of baby burp-up seems like a half gallon of fluid.
My 120 pound dog eats about 3 cups of kibble a day, but I swear he poops out about 4 cups ( ok- I will factor in the vast amounts of water he drinks and the expansion of the kibble ) but he also pees about a gallon a day and loses about a pound of hair each day. How is this possible? Does he turn air into hair?
How many words can a 10 cent pencil write? An awful lot more than you might think.
And what about darkness? This is kind of like the GPA example. There can be pure darkness, but a tiny light will light it up, and no matter how much darkness is added, it cannot extinguish the light.
There are some things we just have to accept that we cannot understand. So, on this note- be the little light in another's darkness, and remember that the light is far more powerful than the dark.
Happy Father's Day!
Simple Cucumber Salad
*** Can be prepared ahead of time***
2 English Cucumbers
2 tsp salt (for salting the cucumber)
4 green onions
2 tablespoons chopped fresh cilantro
1/4 cup fresh lemon juice
1/4 cup Extra Virgin Olive Oil
1/4 tsp fresh ground pepper
1. Slice cucumber very thin 1/8th inch- sprinkle with salt and let sit in colander for 1 hour.
2. Rinse cucumber thoroughly and dry cucumbers with a paper towel.
3. Slice green onions. Finely chop cilantro. Combine onions, cilantro, lemon juice, olive oil and pepper and stir to combine.
4. Pour the dressing over the cucumber, stir to incorporate and serve.
Losing something is difficult while gaining something is easier. So try to gain beauty and make your life prettier.
Treat gain and loss the same.' Don't be Intimidated. Don't make a Big Deal of anything - just accept things as they come to you.
The stretching of your faith is immediate pain that results in ultimate gain. It is in the waiting that we become who we are meant to be.
When you complain, you explain pain for no gain. Endure and balance yourself through the pain, be hopeful and persist to the end.
I wouldnt be who I am today if it wasnt for the people I had met and the people I had lost.
-Shannon A. Thompson
I believe that our world was created with a sense of order. For every loss, there's a gain. Sometimes we're so blinded by the loss that we don't see the gain, don't recognize the gift.
Change comes with pain... But this pain later becomes a gain. To explain it well, "no pain, no gain"! Endure the pain and make a difference!
I can never gain something without losing everything I had before.
Poetry and beauty
are born out of pain.
This is their glory,
this is our gain.
You may gain a position, but that does not mean you've gained leadership. You may lose position, but that does not mean you've lost leadership! When you gain true character, you gain leadership and when you lose it, you cease to be a leader!
The need for gain, and advantage over others, is one of the chief driving forces behind all human misery.
Millionaires don't play the blame game but the gain game.
-Dee Dee Artner
When the gain is greater than the pain, Ill be there, telling you how we can both profit from your productivity. Thats what love is about.
..various people had long had the feeling that gain through pain was nature's way
PULL and PUSH" are basic principles of life. You must PULL to work hard and then PUSH to give hard"... The reason why we gain is to give!
A dog to vomit does turn,
A fool to folly but return,
The wise err and learn,
Gaining from each burn.
today's pain is yesterdays latent gain we did not take
Everything that can be counted does not necessarily count; everything that counts cannot necessarily be counted
The most serious mistakes are not being made as a result of wrong answers. The truly dangerous thing is asking the wrong question
One of the great mistakes is to judge policies and programs by their intentions rather than their results
The pure and simple truth is rarely pure and never simple
The pure and simple truth is rarely pure and never simple
I know that half of my advertising dollars are wasted I just dont know which half
The beginning of thought is in disagreement - not only with others but also with ourselves.
A man ought never to trust another mans evaluation of a third mans disposition.
True genius resides in the capacity for evaluation of uncertain, hazardous, and conflicting information.
Feelings are more dangerous than ideas, because they aren't susceptible to rational evaluation. They grow quietly, spreading underground, and erupt suddenly, all over the place.
As the future is never known with certainy, the evaluation of the prospective benefits requires the formation of expectations. An acceptable house, partner or job, then, is one that offers an expected stream of future benefit that has a value in excess of the option to continue to search for an even better alternative.
-Dale T. Mortensen
Validity, reliability, comparability, and fairness are not just measurement issues, but social values that have meaning and force outside of measurement wherever evaluative judgments and decisions are made.
For there is nothing either good or bad, thinking makes it so.
The only man who behaves sensibly is my tailor; he takes my measurements anew every time he sees me, while all the rest go on with their old measurements and expect me to fit them.
-George Bernard Shaw
If you judge, investigate.
Friend to Groucho Marx: Life is difficult!
Marx to Friend: Compared to what?
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There's no growth without change, no change without fear or loss, and no loss without pain.. but without pain you never know about growth...
If American men are obsessed with money, American women are obsessed with weight. The men talk of gain, the women talk of loss, and I do not know which talk is the more boring.
The risk of love is loss, and the price of loss is grief - But the pain of grief Is only a shadow When compared with the pain Of never risking love.
-Hilary Stantin Zunin
Loss and possession, death and life are one, There falls no shadow where there shines no sun.
It is no good getting furious if you get stuck. What I do is keep thinking about the problem but work on something else. Sometimes it is years before I see the way forward. In the case of information loss and black holes, it was 29 years.
The hand that gives is among the hand that takes. Money has no fatherland, financiers are without patriotism and without decency, their sole object is gain.
What win I, if I gain the thing I seek?
A dream, a breath, a froth of fleeting joy.
Who buys a minute's mirth to wail a week?
Or sells eternity to get a toy?
For one sweet grape who will the vine destroy?
Or what fond beggar, but to touch the crown,
Would with the sceptre straight be strucken down?
The easiest way to gain someone's trust is to deserve it. This should be pretty easy, assuming you're just being you and being real. Minimal effort too.
To make a deliberate falsification for personal gain is the last, worst depth to which either scholar or artist can descend in work or life.
-Dorothy L. Sayers
Those that much covet are with gain so fond,
For what they have not, that which they possess
They scatter and unloose it from their bond,
And so, by hoping more, they have but less;
Or, gaining more, the profit of excess
Is but to surfeit, and such griefs sustain,
That they prove bankrupt in this poor-rich gain.
What you gain here, you lose on the other side.
At the banquet table of nature, there are no reserved seats. You get what you can take, and you keep what you can hold. If you can't take anything, you won't get anything, and if you can't hold anything, you won't keep anything. And you can't take anything without organization.
-A. Philip Randolph
Education is not an expense, but it is the capital ready to be invested.
The return depends on the wisdom you gained.
I have nothing, so I think having something would mean everything to me. But I dont want to get to the point where I have everything, so having something would mean nothing to me.
Remain open-minded, even when you believe yourself to be a king among peasants. You never know what blessings can be gained or crises averted just by listening.
Great gains come from setting one's brains into the right frames of thinking
-Constance Chuks Friday
Endure the pain in the sunrise, so when it's sunset, there's lot of profit to be gained.
Your money myth affects your gain and luck.
In economics, illusion of money affects wealth.
Quitters dont gain what they have started working on; waiters dont start what they could have gained. What is common there is failure.
It is too true, however disgraceful it may be to human nature, that nations in general will make war whenever they have a prospect of getting anything by it.
Forget your past,
Use your pain;
Accept that pain,
And Achieve the gain.
Shake hands with today; it is here already. Bid farewell to yesterday; its gone already. Never let yesterdays pain rob you of todays gains. Drive yourself positively!
Keep Inspiring everyday, because when you retire, you will lose desire, become tired, and expire.
-Michael Bassey Johnson
Men of action get the largest fraction of benefits
-Constance Chuks Friday
Real success sometimes involves saying no to growth, expansion and gain.
Beware of fame; for when they come for you, they come not to give, but for to gain.
Whoever is needed, wields the most power.
Whoever is needy, seeks to wield that power.
-Justin K. McFarlane Beau
You may be able to conquer the whole world and gain everything in action,
But you'll live in torment if you can't find peace of mind and satisfaction.
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