Merry Christmas and Happy Everything to Everyone. That's the best I can do at attempting to be politically correct. But really, I do wish everyone peace and plenty. Very rarely do I ever venture to muse publicly on politics or even major news, because I really don't feel qualified, but the recent horrific acts of terrorism have me on High Alert. Generally I do not sweat the things I cannot control. I believe in destiny, but that does not mean I understand it. My heart goes out to all victims of terrorism, to the refugees who are fleeing it, to the countries who are afraid to take them in for fear of it. To the innocents decimated in the trail of it. When will it end? Perhaps never. Looking at history, our world has always been a violent place. We are just much more informed these days. Ignorance is bliss- but not really.
So, many of you who know our family know that Buddha Boy is no longer Buddha Boy. He has become Army Man. He has pledged to make a difference for the better. Whatever it takes. He is in his third year of Army ROTC and has become the lean mean fighting machine- though I still see the gentle spirit inside.
He spent the last weekend away on a military exercise. Something about night navigation. I try not to ask too many questions as that just annoys him, and the answers scare the pooh out of me. This military gig has always been his lifelong dream, and he has excelled in ROTC. He has risen the ranks, gotten in better physical shape that I even imagined, demonstrated determination and leadership skills and made lasting friendships. He loves it. They love him. But I shudder to think what he may have to face in one year when he graduates and goes in as a Second Lieutenant. I am just going to trust. He has an excellent guardian angel, and I am holding on to that.
During his training we received a text with a gruesome graphic of his unfortunate encounter with rusted barbed wire. It looked like it might need stitches, so we advised him to request to see the doc to have it looked at. He advised us that he was rough and tough and did not want to see the doc- as then he would have that on his record. Instead, he applied ample amounts of Neosporin, bandaged it up and continued on his way. It didn't occur to us immediately, but someone had the wisdom to suggest he get a tetanus shot. Yes! A tetanus shot was indeed in order!!!!
I will admit that it is a hassle to try to get him to the doctor as the HMO is three freeways and 30 minutes no traffic away. That means we need a 2 hour block of time in the best of scenarios just to have him seen. Fortunately he rarely gets sick. He is extremely busy with 21 units, early morning workouts and finding a 2 hour slot of time prior to Turkey Day was proving daunting. To add to the fun, the HMO had no open appointments for the next day. The more I pressed for a time the more he said to drop it- that he was fine and he blithely continued to kill virtual enemies on whatever game that is that I detest. The more "fine" he was, the more "frustrated" I became. Suffice it to say I did not handle it skillfully, however I did achieve success as after my rant, he did go online and get a priority appointment at the university health center. Problem solved. But I thought you might be amused by our textversation, so I decided to share. As an early Christmas present to my loyal following. And Please!!! Don't mention this to either HH or AM as they don't read my mumblings and might not appreciate my sharing. But I thought their exchange was eloquent, so I had to share :-)
HH = Handsome Hubby
AM = Army Man
FM = Frustrated Mom
HH: You might be able to call the HMO and they'll send a prescription to Rite-Aid for the Tetanus shot. Rite-Aid then administers the shot. If that is the case, get one for Princess too.
HH: Ask the College Health Center as well.
FM: With the HMO he needs to be seen by a doctor.
HH: You called them? A Coworker tried to schedule an appointment to get a Tetanus shot and they gave him a prescription, as they didn't have the medicine there, so they could not administer it.
FM: I did call them. They put me on hold and said that he'd need to be seen to get the order for the shot. I hope he can get it at the Health Center. I need to drive in the other direction for work today.
HH: Yes me too ( meaning he hoped the University Health Center would work out ). I think Princess can drive him to the HMO.
FM: Well this is easier said than done. The HMO has no appointments and is not recommending walk ins as there is a 3 hour wait. They gave me the option to call at 7 am tomorrow to try to get an open same day appointment. It is too late for today. AM is busy tomorrow with tests. I can try to make an appointment for Wednesday between 9 - noon. It would be GREAT if AM could go to the Health Center but there's no guarantee, especially since virtual warfare takes precedence over checking with the Health Center online. If he can't do the Health Center I need to attempt to make an appointment at the HMO pronto. What happens if he doesn't get the Tetanus Shot and it turns out he needed one? I don't want to worry about that. I am open for suggestions.
HH: We can try our local non HMO doctor and pay the co-pay. Let me call his office now. ( HH does not realize that it takes DAYS to get an appointment there )
AM: ( this was a group text ) I told the Health Center that I'm ARMY ROTC and they are giving me a priority appointment, and they will be personally calling me to give me the soonest appointment possible. It's handled. I will be ok, I have a strong body, and Tetanus is not going to kill me. I AM IMMORTAL.
FM: Excellent. That's all I wanted you to do. Thank you for handling it.
AM: I am going in tomorrow at 8 AM and paying $40.
FM: Will the Army reimburse you?
AM: It's $40 it's not worth the paperwork and the shot on my record. ( he obviously has more disposable income than I do and did he intend the pun??? )
FM: no comment. ( my "no comment" was indeed a comment ironically.)
HH: I'll split the cost with you as I previously told you my opinion on not taking care of Business when you returned from Night Navigation. You have your opinion so that is why I say we split it. Have fun with the sore arm on Wednesday.
AM: I'm rich, I don't need your money, and I'm a DemiGod. I have no understanding of the word, "sore".
HH: Being Humble is the Character of a True Leader, no one respects Arrogance.
AM: I don't know about that, the greatest leaders of warriors have always proclaimed self-greatness to trick their warriors that they are the best, because confidence in the field can make all the difference.
HH:Yes but when they fail just once look how people turn on them and laugh. Ronda Rousey and Adolf Hitler are perfect examples in Modern times. When I was growing up- every comedian had a Hitler gag.
AM: We can observe the example of military superiority that goes hand-in-hand with extreme levels of pride in the Spartans, Romans, Samurais, German Waffen Soldiers, Alexander the Great, Macedonian Warriors, Genghis Khan's Mongol Warriors. Pride backed by military superiority and loyalty creates elite warriors. So I believe I am immortal, and my soldiers believe that they are immortal, and we also have the most advanced weapon systems and technology than any other military- the end result will always be victory.
FM: Except when it isn't. As any seasoned warrior will attest- a big part of victory lies in being prepared. Also with taking care of small problems thus preventing them form becoming big problems.
I had the last word. Or maybe they were just tired of responding. Though I admire AM's bravado and confidence, I think he is still quite naive to think that he is immortal. None of us are. At least not in our physical forms. That was recently proven to us in the attacks. I can take some peace in my belief that our spirits are immortal. But I don't agree in testing the belief or in foisting it upon others who hold just as strong in their beliefs. Oh- I guess that was another lame attempt at being Politically Correct.
I wish you all a safe and blessed holiday- whatever it is that you celebrate. I celebrate Christmas so Merry Christmas. The Season of Love. The festival of lights!
Recipe: Blushing Pomegranate Chicken
2 pounds sweet potatoes, peeled and quartered
3 1/2 pounds bone in chicken pieces
1 cup pomegranate juice
1/4 cup shery vinegar
1/4 cup olive oil
1 tablespoon brown sugar
1 teaspoon ground ginger
4 cloves garlic, crushed
1 teaspoon salt
1/4 teaspoon black pepper
1 bunch green onions, sliced
1/4 cup pomegranate seeds
Arrange sweet potatoes and chicken pieces in a 9 x 13 inch baking dish. Mix togethere pomegranate juice, sherry vinegar, olive oil, brown sugar, ginger, garlic, and salt and pepper. Pour over chicken and sweet potatoes. Cover and marinate for 1 to 2 hours, turning once.
Preheat oven to 350 degrees and bake uncovered for 1 hour. Sprinkle with green onion and pomegranate seeds before serving.
Do not try to live forever. You will not succeed.
The average man, who does not know what to do with his life, wants another one which will last forever.
Our hope of immortality does not come from any religions, but nearly all religions come from that hope.
- Robert Ingersoll
The soul of man is immortal and imperishable.
Don't try to add more years to your life. Better add more life to your years.
To himself everyone is immortal; he may know that he is going to die, but he can never know that he is dead.
Life is the childhood of our immortality.
Surely God would not have created such a being as man, with an ability to grasp the infinite, to exist only for a day! No, no, man was made for immortality.
Immortality is the only thing which doesn't tolerate being postponed.
Man is immortal; therefore he must die endlessly. For life is a creative idea; it can only find itself in changing forms.
I am not at all interested in immortality, only in the taste of tea.
Millions long for immortality who do not know what to do with themselves on a rainy Sunday afternoon.
What we do for ourselves dies with us. What we do for others and the world remains and is immortal.
I don't want to achieve immortality through my work. I want to achieve it through not dying.
Immortality is what nature possesses without effort and without anybody's assistance, and immortality is what the mortals must therefore try to achieve if they want to live up to the world into which they were born, to live up to the things which surround them and to whose company they are admitted for a short while.
Every idea is endowed of itself with immortal life, like a human being. All created form, even that which is created by man, is immortal. For form is independent of matter: molecules do not constitute form.
Charles Baudelaire (
It has been said that the immortality of the soul is a ''grand peut-''tre'' --but still it is a grand one. Everybody clings to it --the stupidest, and dullest, and wickedest of human bipeds is still persuaded that he is immortal.
Higher than the question of our duration is the question of our deserving. Immortality will come to such as are fit for it, and he would be a great soul in future must be a great soul now.
Ralph Waldo Emerson
He had decided to live forever or die in the attempt.
Immortal mortals, mortal immortals, one living the others death and dying the others life.
The best argument I know for an immortal life is the existence of a man who deserves one.
I have good hope that there is something after death.
Perhaps nature is our best assurance of immortality.
We feel and know that we are eternal.
Benedict de Spinoza
To achieve great things we must live as though we were never going to die.
Marquis de Vauvenargues
The insatiable thirst for everything which lies beyond, and which life reveals, is the most living proof of our immortality.
Friendship, like the immortality of the soul, is too good to be believed.
Ralph Waldo Emerson
Each life makes its own immitation of immortality.
To be or not to be isn't the question. The question is how to prolong being.
Our Creator would never have made such lovely days, and have given us the deep hearts to enjoy them, above and beyond all thought, unless we were meant to be immortal.
Imagination, the supreme delight of the immortal and the immature, should be limited. In order to enjoy life, we should not enjoy it too much.
Parents lend children their experience and a vicarious memory; children endow their parents with a vicarious immortality.
Man, as long as he lives, is immortal. One minute before his death he shall be immortal. But one minute later, God wins.
Many that live deserve death. And some that die deserve life. Can you give it to them? Then do not be too eager to deal out death in judgment. For even the very wise cannot see all ends.
J. R. R. Tolkien
The only greatness for man is immortality.
It was not the outer granduer of the Roman but the inner simplicity of the Christian that lived through the ages.
A great man is one who leaves others at a loss after he is gone.
Happy Birthday Mom!
You haven't yet opened your heart fully, to life, to each moment. The
peaceful warrior's way is not about invulnerability, but absolute
vulnerability--to the world, to life, and to the Presence you felt. All
along I've shown you by example that a warrior's life is not about
imagined perfection or victory; it is about love. Love is a warrior's
sword; wherever it cuts, it gives life, not death.
Vulnerability is the only authentic state. Being vulnerable means being open, for wounding, but also for pleasure. Being open to the wounds of life means also being open to the bounty and beauty. Dont mask or deny your vulnerability: it is your greatest asset. Be vulnerable: quake and shake in your boots with it. The new goodness that is coming to you, in the form of people, situations, and things can only come to you when you are vulnerable, i.e. open.
Barefoot Doctor's Guide to the Tao:
A Spiritual Handbook for the Urban Warrior
The strongest love is the love that can demonstrate its fragility.
We all need somebody to talk to. It would be good if we talked. . . not just pitter-patter, but real talk. We shouldn't be so afraid, because most people really like this contact; that you show you are vulnerable makes them free to be vulnerable.
I do not believe that sheer suffering teaches. If suffering alone taught, all the world would be wise, since everyone suffers. To suffering must be added mourning, understanding, patience, love, openness and the willingness to remain vulnerable.
There can be no vulnerability without risk; there can be
no community without vulnerability; there can be no
peace, and ultimately no life, without community.
M. Scott Peck
When we were children, we used to think that when we were grown-up
we would no longer be vulnerable. But to grow up is to accept
vulnerability. . . To be alive is to be vulnerable.
Any love makes us vulnerable. Whatever we love will give the gift of pain somewhere along the road. But who would live sealed in spiritual cellophane just to keep from ever being hurt? There are a few people like that. I'm sorry for them. I think they are as good as dead.
Gladys Bagg Taber
Harvest at Stillmeadow
But, of course, putting yourself out there takes vulnerability. Vulnerability
is hard, and we, as a rule, tend to go for whats easy; by that logic, closing
ourselves off is the easiest thing in the world. We quote the words of others
to do our talking for us, send each other links to articles and stories in lieu
of actual conversation, post pretty pictures to adequately convey our current
state of mind, all to avoid having to proffer a single identifiable human emotion.
We keep in touch with relatives by emailing them mawkishly inspirational chain
letters once in a while. We regurgitate memes to approximate
the feeling of being in the loop.
Love comes when manipulation stops; when you think
more about the other person than about his or her
reactions to you. When you dare to reveal yourself
fully. When you dare to be vulnerable.
A good teacher can never be fixed in a routine... each moment
requires a sensitive mind that is constantly changing
and constantly adapting.
A teacher must never impose this student to fit his favourite pattern;
a good teacher functions as a pointer, exposing his student's
vulnerability, causing him or her to explore both internally
and finally integrating oneself with one's being.
As earthly creatures continually subject to relative disappointment, pain,
and loss, we cannot avoid feeling vulnerable. Yet as an open channel
through which great love enters this world, the human heart remains
invincible. Being wholly and genuinely human means standing firmly
planted in both dimensions, celebrating that we are both vulnerable
and indestructible at the same time. Here at this crossroads where
yes and no, limitless love and human limitation, intersect, we discover
the essential human calling: progressively unveiling the sun in
our heart, that it may embrace the whole of ourselves
and the whole of creation within the sphere of its radiant warmth.
When two people respect each other, the ability to be vulnerable
and to reveal hurt feelings can create a powerful emotional connection
that is the source of real intimacy and friendship.
We're never so vulnerable than when we trust someone--but
paradoxically, if we cannot trust, neither can we find love or joy.
Owning our story can be hard but not nearly as difficult as spending our
lives running from it. Embracing our vulnerabilities is risky but not nearly
as dangerous as giving up on love and belonging and joythe experiences
that make us the most vulnerable. Only when we are brave enough to
explore the darkness will we discover the infinite power of our light.
People are so fearful about opening themselves up. All you
want to do is to be able to connect with other people. When
you connect with other people, you connect with something
in yourself. It makes you feel happy. And yet it's so scary,
it makes people feel vulnerable and unsafe.
Sometimes we must yield control to others and accept
our vulnerability so we can be healed.
Healing Hearts: A Memoir of
a Female Heart Surgeon
We get most upset with those we love because they are close to
us and we know that they are aware of our weaknesses. . . If only
we could learn to live with our inadequacies, our frailties, our
vulnerabilities, we would not need to try so hard to push away
those who really know us.
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