Letter to My Eight Year Old Self

I'll bet you were expecting I might write about the upcoming election or something about independence. Nah. I had planned an entirely different blog for the month of July- kind of an ode to our fabulous family and friends in Europe who so generously hosted us and literally spoiled us rotten on our recent vacation to visit them- but I was prompted to write this letter to my 8 year old self, and the words just flowed right out without me even having to think much about it! That other blog will be written- possibly for August.

Now I realize this is not a "novel" idea as there are several books written with this theme in mind. In fact, I bought, "What I know Now" for my daughter, but she did not read it. But I think that I will soon :-) I had so much fun with this. I think it would be an excellent writing assignment for 10th graders. Imagine writing a letter to yourself with advice for different stages of life stemming from the wisdom you have gained. It is a strange concept, as you wouldn't be you if you had not experienced your life just as you did. So the letter would be different. I wonder what my 75 year old self would write to my 54 year old self? Imagine living to 100 and writing these letters? So unique for each person! Oh! I just discovered a website www.dearyoungme.com! If you need to burn some time, visit and have fun.

So here is my letter to my 8 year old self::

Dear Jewel,

I hope you will have a great day today. I know 3rd grade can be tough- learning multiplication tables and writing in cursive, but you will eventually become a master of both. Don't worry that you can never get 100% on the spelling test and collect the light blue beads to win prizes like Diane does. You will never be a good speller because you think too much about it, and the English language is full of exceptions. When you are older, you will learn to use a computer- yep- you have not even heard of a computer yet! It is a machine that will automatically correct your spelling, and open up the whole world to you. You will love having so much information at your fingertips and corresponding with friends around the world. You'll also have an iPhone which is a portable phone that you can carry around. It is also a camera and you can store tons of your favorite music on it.

If I can give you some good advice it is this: To thine own self be true. Don't worry that you get along better with the boys than those prissy girls. Keep playing on the monkey bars and beating the boys in the arm-wrestling competitions. You won't be able to beat them much longer. And it is way more interesting to gather the iron out of the sand using powerful magnets than it is to follow Jackie around admiring the latest fashions she so elegantly wears. Don't beat yourself up that you are different from the flock.

Enjoy those BBQ potato chips and chocolate snack pack pudding cups in the little green cans that you get most days in your lunch. You are so lucky to have a mom who so lovingly packs your lunches with all of your favorite things. I know that you realized, even at the age of 8, that you were very fortunate to be born into such a great family. Your big brothers are very kind to include you in activities with them and their friends. They taught you to be tough and to play adventurous games like Crash Cars where you run around on the lawn and crash into people- the last one left standing wins. And Snakes In the Grass where one person starts as the snake and has to crawl and tackle one of the others. Then there are 2 snakes, then 3. Again, the last one left standing wins. But you never got hurt. They played gentle with you. The hide and seek games with the neighbor kids were the best though. You should always remember the fun you had growing up. Your mom and dad were great parents and spent a lot of quality time with you and your brothers. You learned a lot from their example. You will raise your kids in a similar fashion.

Don't worry about those few extra pounds. You will get that under control when you turn 14. Just keep getting lots of exercise. It is a bummer that the current fashion is twiggy thin. That will change later. Also, your full lips will come into style. People will pay to inject chemicals into their lips to make them fuller! So don't worry about being called "Bubba Lips" by your friends. Oh you will laugh at that when you are older.

You don't have many friends because you march to the beat of a different drummer and don't follow the crowd, but you will come into your own in high school where originality is admired. In fact, you will coin a new word "HUBE" and make people guess what it means in order to be part of the club. You'll give them 20 yes/no questions, and if they guess it, they will be part of the club. This will be a big deal in your Senior year, and you will develop life long friends because of it.You will continue to make really great friends all your life.

Stick with your writing. It will give you great joy and be a good friend to you during the rough patch that lies ahead. Keep on with the poetry and journaling. Continue to do messy crafts as that will bring you much joy as well. Continue to spend a lot of time in nature appreciating the beauty of the natural surroundings. Never lose your inclination to trust everyone until they do you wrong, and to forgive them quickly afterwards. And speaking of trust- trust that everything will work out just as it must- whether you understand it or not. Looking back years later, it will all make sense.

Last bit of advice- expect nothing and be grateful for everything. This is the recipe for happiness.

Recipe:

( I had to find this on the internet because someone would not share their secret family recipe! )

Steak Rub

3 tbsp kosher salt

3 tbsp smoked paprika

2 tbsp onion powder

2 tbsp garlic powder

2 tbsp dried oregano

2 tbsp ground black pepper

1 tbsp brown sugar

1 tbsp ground cumin

Mix kosher salt, smoked paprika, onion powder, garlic powder, oregano, black pepper, brown sugar, and cumin together in a sealable container. Seal container and shake to mix.

More Quotes:

“Communication is the solvent of all problems, therefore communication skills are the foundation for personal development.” —Peter Shepherd

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“A good listener is not only popular everywhere, but after a while he knows something.” —Wilson Mizner

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“Nothing lowers the level of conversation more than raising the voice.” —Stanley Horowitz

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“What greater thing is there for two human souls than to feel that they are joined... to strengthen each other... to be at one with each other in silent unspeakable memories.” —George Eliot

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“Love is like the truth, sometimes it prevails, and sometimes it hurts.” —Victor M. Garcia Jr.

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“To love leaves us open to loss. But we do it to ourselves because it is worth it.” —from Lark Rise to Candleford (BBC drama)

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“An open ear is the only believable sign of an open heart.” —David Augsburger

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“At the touch of love, everyone becomes a poet.” —Plato

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“People who do not understand you will never settle for any proof, and people who appreciate you do not need any proof. “ —Seth (Jane Roberts)

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“It is much easier to be critical than to be correct.” —Benjamin Disraeli

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“Love can make a summer fly, or a night seem like a lifetime.” —Andrew Lloyd Webber

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“Someone’s opinion of you does not have to become your reality.” —Les Brown

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“Everything that irritates us about others can lead us to an understanding of ourselves.” —Carl Jung

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“Love can make a summer fly, or a night seem like a lifetime.” —Andrew Lloyd Webber

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“Someone’s opinion of you does not have to become your reality.” —Les Brown

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“Everything that irritates us about others can lead us to an understanding of ourselves.” —Carl Jung

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“What is most beautiful in virile men is something feminine; what is most beautiful in feminine women is something masculine.” —Susan Sontag

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“No one can make you feel inferior without your consent.” —Eleanor Roosevelt

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“Have the courage to be sincere, clear and honest. This opens the door to deeper communication all around. It creates self-empowerment and the kind of connections with others we all want in life. Speaking from the heart frees us from the secrets that burden us. These secrets are what make us sick or fearful. Speaking truth helps you get clarity on your real heart directives.” —Sara Paddison

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“Abilities wither under faultfinding, blossom with encouragement.” —Donald A. Laird

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“Oh the comfort, the inexpressible comfort of feeling safe with a person, having neither to weigh thoughts nor measure words, but pouring them all right out, just as they are - chaff and grain together - certain that a faithful hand will take and sift them, keep what is worth keeping, and with the breath of kindness blow the rest away.” —Dinah Craik

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“When you like someone, you like them in spite of their faults. When you love someone, you love them with their faults.” —Elizabeth Cameron

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“People change and forget to tell each other.” —Lillian Hellman

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“If you love somebody, let them go, for if they return, they were always yours. And if they don’t, they never were” —Kahlil Gibran

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“Friendship with one’s self is all important, because without it one cannot be friends with anyone else in the world.” —Eleanor Roosevelt

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“Forgiveness is the attribute of the strong.” —Mahatma Gandhi

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“Love and concern for all are not things some of us are born with and others are not. Rather, they are results of what we do with our minds: We can choose to transform our minds so that they embody love, or we can allow them to develop habits and false concepts of separation.” —Sharon Salzbert

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“Wise men speak because they have something to say; fools because they have to say something.” —Plato

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“Good friendships are fragile things and require as much care as any other fragile and precious thing.” —Randolph S. Bourne

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“The result of our people-judgments is that we often throw away someone’s ideas because they are voiced by the wrong person or because we don’t agree with all of their ideas.” —Thayer White

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“A friend hears the song in my heart and sings it to me when my memory fails.” —Unknown

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“If you want to go quickly, go alone. If you want to go far, go together.” —African proverb

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“With the gift of listening comes the gift of healing.” —Catherine de Hueck

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“Love is touching souls.” —Joni Mitchell

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“A friend is one that knows you as you are, understands where you have been, accepts what you have become, and still, gently allows you to grow.” —William Shakespeare

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“Criticism is something we can avoid easily —by saying nothing, doing nothing, and being nothing.” —Aristotle

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“Real love takes work. You have to be willing to make the effort.” —Rabbi Weinberg

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“There is harmony in the tension of opposites, as in the case of the bow and lyre.” —Heraclitus

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“Life has taught us that love does not consist in gazing at each other, but in looking outward together in the same direction.” —Antoine de Saint-Exupery

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“The happiness of life is made up of the little charities of a kiss or smile, a kind look, a heartfelt compliment.” —Samuel Taylor Coleridge

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“What most people need to learn in life is how to love people and use things instead of using people and loving things.”-unknown

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“The consciousness of loving and being loved brings a warmth and richness to life that nothing else can bring.” —Oscar Wilde

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“The wise stand out because they see themselves as part of the Whole. They shine because they don’t want to impress. They achieve great things because they don’t look for recognition. Their wisdom is contained in what they are, not their opinions. They refuse to argue, so no-one argues with them.” —Lao Tzu

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“The judgement of others does not change who I am. Quite the opposite is true. It reveals who they are.” —Terry McPhearson

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“Speaking with kindness creates confidence, thinking with kindness creates profoundness, giving with kindness creates love.” —Lao Tseu

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“If you tell the truth, you don’t have to remember anything.” —Mark Twain

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Next Post date: August 1, 2016
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July 4, 2016

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Quotes:

Borrowed from:

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“Knowledge is learning something new every day. Wisdom is letting go of something every day.” —Zen Proverb

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“Education is the great engine of personal development. It is through education that the daughter of a peasant can become a doctor, that a son of a mineworker can become the head of the mine, that a child of farm workers can become the president of a nation.” —Nelson Mandela

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“He who asks is a fool for five minutes, but he who does not ask remains a fool forever.” —Chinese Proverb

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“The mediocre teacher tells. The good teacher explains. The superior teacher demonstrates. The great teacher inspires.” —William Arthur Ward

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“An investment in knowledge pays the best dividends.” —Benjamin Franklin

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“There are obviously two educations. One should teach us how to make a living and the other how to live.” —James Truslow Adams

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“Education is not the filling of a pail but the lighting of a fire.” —William Butler Yeats

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“Curiosity is the very basis of education and if you tell me that curiosity killed the cat, I say only that the cat died nobly.” —Arnold Edinborough

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“Learning is not attained by chance. It must be sought for with ardor and attended to with diligence.” —Abigail Adams

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“Minds are like parachutes, they only function when they are open.” —James Dewar

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“The mind is like the stomach. It is not how much you put into it that counts, but how much it digests.” —A.J. Nock

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“The best thing parents can do for their children is to love each other.”

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“If he is indeed wise, the teacher does not bid you enter the house of wisdom, but rather he leads you to the threshold of your own mind.” —Kahlil Gibran, The Prophet

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“The surest way to corrupt a youth is to instruct him to hold in higher regard those who think alike than those who think differently.” —Nietzsche

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“Tell me and I’ll forget. Show me and I’ll remember. Involve me and I’ll understand.” —Confucius

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“If you think that education is expensive, try ignorance.” —Derek Botz

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“He who asks is a fool for five minutes, but he who does not remains a fools for life.” —Chinese proverb

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“Common sense is the collection of prejudices acquired by age eighteen.” —Albert Einsten

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“The mind is not a vessel to be filled but a fire to be kindled.” —Plutarch

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“A great many people think they are thinking when they are merely rearranging their prejudices.” —William James

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“Your children are not your children.
They are the sons and daughters of Life’s longing for itself.
They come through you but not from you,
and though they are with you, yet they belong not to you.
You may give them your love, but not your thoughts.
For they have their own thoughts.
You may house their bodies but not their souls,
for their souls dwell in the house of tomorrow, which you cannot visit, not even in your dreams.
You may strive to be like them, but seek not to make them like you.
For life goes not backward, nor tarries with yesterday.”
—Kahlil Gibran

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“When inquiry is suppressed by previous knowledge, or by the authority and experience of another, then learning becomes mere imitation, and imitation causes a human being to repeat what is learned without experiencing it.” —J. Krishnamurti

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“Children need models rather than critics.”
—Joseph Joubert

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“It is what we think we know already that often prevents us from learning.” —Claude Bernard

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“The way to make learning a lesson a celebration, instead of a cause for regret, is to ask ... How can I put this to use today?”

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“If someone feels that he has never made a mistake in his life, it only means that he has never tried anything new in his life.” —Albert Einstein

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“Learning without thinking is labor lost; thinking without learning is perilous.” —Confucius

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“Prejudice is the child of ignorance.” —Hazlitt

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“The young do not know enough to be prudent, and therefore they attempt the impossible, and achieve it, generation after generation.” —Pearl S. Buck

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“The only stupid question is one not asked.”

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“We have not passed that subtle line between childhood and adulthood until we have stopped saying ‘It got lost,’ and say, ‘I lost it.’ “ —Sydney J. Harris

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“Education is nothing more, nor less, than learning to think!” —Peter Facione

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“An educated mind is useless without a focussed will and dangerous without a loving heart.” —Winfried Deijmann

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“In their freedom, birds make expanding circles in the sky.
How do they learn to be free?
They fall—and by falling are given wings to fly.” —Rumi

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“The trouble with the world is that the stupid are cocksure and the intelligent are full of doubt.” —Bertrand Russell

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“The only thing that interferes with my learning is my education.” —Albert Einstein

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“Our vision is more obstructed by what we think we know than by our lack of knowledge.” —Kristen Stendahl

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“Every act of conscious learning requires the willingness to suffer injury to our self-esteem. That is why young children, before they are aware of their self-importance, learn so easily; and why older people, especially if vain or arrogant, cannot learn at all.” —Thomas Szasz

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“The fact that an opinion has been widely held is no evidence that it is not utterly absurd; indeed in view of the silliness of the majority of mankind, a widespread belief is more often likely to be foolish than sensible...” —Bertrand Russell

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“It takes more courage to alter an opinion than to stick with it.”- Unknown

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“Comfort is found among those who agree with you; growth among those who don’t.”- unknown

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“The fact that someone says something doesn’t mean it’s true. Doesn’t mean they’re lying, but it doesn’t mean it’s true.”
—Carl Sagan

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“A friend is a person with whom I may be honest. Before him, I may think aloud.” —Ralph Waldo Emerson

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“Talk sense to a fool and he calls you foolish.” —Euripedes

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