A few weeks ago, probably in response to all of the holiday hype, I started musing on spending habits. And not just the monetary type, but also on how time, love, generosity, care, appreciation, creativity, respect, etc. can be spent. There are so many different directions this could go, both tangible and intangible, so I decided to pick those concepts which I felt were most intriguing for this article.
For example, with regard to tangible things, some individuals are prone to sip and savor while others are programmed to guzzle with gusto. And then there are the inbetweeners who do a bit of each. Also, quite a bit depends upon what is being sipped or guzzled, and the availability of the what. By this I mean that we may feel more free to guzzle our water with gusto, but will sip and savor the Dom Perignon. We will don the fancy dress on rare special occasions but wear the jeans all the time. But given $1000 to spend, some will choose to spend it all on a few quality items while others would prefer to stretch it out over a long period of time on smaller indulgences. We all differ in this respect. That's what the gambling casinos are banking on. The logic to this is quite easy to grasp.
But what about how we spend our intangibles such as love, time, generosity, care, appreciation, learning, respect etc.? What if each of us were born with a set amount of these intangibles, and it was up to us to make the right choices on how to spend them over the span of our lifetimes to our best advantage? What if we spent all of our love on the wrong person only to find out that we now have none left to invest? That would be devastating.
Fortunately, it seems to me that many of the intangibles come with free refills. The more we spend the more we have to spend. Like a smile, we spend it, and it generates another, so the more that are spent, the more there are to spend. And appreciation, gratitude, respect, etc. The more we actively engage in these activities, the more we can find additional reasons to continue engaging in them. The well never runs dry.
This concept of abundance is not so simple to understand. Our culture teaches us to get our share, but not to share what we get. To hold on to what we have and to guard it; but who benefits from a piece of beautiful jewelry kept in a safe deposit box? Or a compliment left unsaid? Or a helping hand kept in a pocket? Or knowledge not being shared? Or a chintzy tip? I think it is human nature to think that the more we hang on to something, the more of it we will have. But I think that the more powerful nature of the universe is to learn to let go or even to let be. To trust that if we are working to our potential, we will have what we need.
Letting go of that fear of loss is not a simple task. But we can begin by faking it. We can buy the shiny thing that we desire to admire, or tip our server an extra dollar without fearing that our checking account will run dry. We can tell those whom we hold dear that we love them without fearing that we will run out of love. We can ask for help without fear of rejection. We can show respect without fear that there will be none left for us.
In fact, we can practice by loving and respecting ourselves, until we get so full that it is spilling over, and we have no option but to love and respect others. We can't give what we don't have, so there you have it. Be kind to ourself and we can be kind to others. Spend of the good things in life because there are free refills. To me, this is what Christmas is about. Spending our money on tangible gifts is just a physical reminder to also spend our love and time and caring and respect, etc. And all of the tinsel and bright lights encourages us. But the real light comes from within, and it can never burn out.
Merry Christmas and Happy New Year from Jewel
Cheery Cherry Bars
2 Cups graham cracker crumbs
1/4 cup sugar
1/2 cup butter, melted
1 can ( 14 oz ) sweetened condensed milk
1 8 oz package cream cheese- room temperature
1 can ( 21 oz ) Cherry Pie Filling
1 cup shredded coconut
1 cup chopped pecans
1) Preheat oven to 350ºF
2) Combine graham cracker crumbs, sugar and butter in a small bowl. Press into a 13x9-inch baking pan.
3) Mix sweetened condensed milk, cream cheese and eggs until blended, and pour over crust. Bake for 20 minutes and remove from oven.
4) Pour cherry filling over baked cheese mixture and then top with coconut and pecans. Bake for additional 30 minutes.
5) Remove from oven and let cool completely before cutting into bars.
Q: What do you call an elf who sings?
A: A Wrapper
Q:What goes "oh oh oh"?
A: Santa walking backwards
Q: Why does Santa Claus go down the chimney on Christmas Eve?
A: Because it soots him.
Q: What's the difference between Tiger Woods and Santa?
A: Santa stopped at three ho's
Q: Why are women's breasts like a train set a kid gets at Christmas time?
A: Because they were originally made for children but the father wants to play with them.
Q: Why is Christmas just like a day at the office?
A: Because you do all the work and the fat guy in the suit gets all the credit.
Q: How are a Christmas tree and a priest alike?
A: They both have ornamental balls.
Q: What do you call Santa's helpers?
A: Subordinate clauses
Q: Why was Santa's little helper depressed?
A: Because he had low elf esteem.
Q: Name the child's favorite Christmas king.
A: A stocking
Q: What is the most popular Christmas carol in the desert?
A: Camel ye Faithful
Q: What do you call people who are afraid of Santa Claus?
Q: What do the female reindeer do when Santa takes the male reindeer out on Christmas Eve?
A: Go into town and blow a few bucks.
Q: What's the difference between snowmen and snowladies?
Q: How come you never hear anything about the 10th reindeer "Olive"?
A: Because olive the other reindeer used to laugh and call him names.
The 4 stages of life:
1) You believe in Santa Claus
2) You don't believe in Santa Claus
3) You dress up as Santa Claus
4) You look like Santa Claus
A family had twin boys whose only resemblance to each other were their looks. Opposite in every way, one was an eternal optimist, the other a doom and gloom pessimist.
Just to see what would happen, on Christmas day their father loaded the pessimists room with every imaginable toy and game. The optimists room he loaded with horse manure.
That night the father passed by the pessimists room and found him sitting amid his new gifts crying bitterly.
Why are you crying? the father asked.
Because my friends will be jealous, Ill have to read all these instructions before I can do anything with this stuff, Ill constantly need batteries, and my toys will eventually get broken. answered the pessimist twin.
Passing the optimist twins room, the father found him dancing for joy in the pile of manure. What are you so happy about? he asked.
To which his optimist twin replied, Theres got to be a pony in here somewhere!
If you see a fat man
Whos jolly and cute,
wearing a beard
and a red flannel suit,
and if he is chuckling
and laughing away,
while flying around
in a miniature sleigh
with eight tiny reindeer
to pull him along,
then lets face it
Your eggnogs too strong!!!
A Christmas Thought
STRESSED is just DESSERTS spelled backward.
Did you hear that one of Santa's reindeer now works for Proctor and Gambel?
It's true....Comet cleans sinks!
If Santa rode a motorcycle, what kind would it be?
A Holly Davidson.
Politically Correct Xmas Night
'Twas the night before Christmas and Santa's a wreck...
How to live in a world that's politically correct?
His workers no longer would answer to "Elves".
"Vertically Challenged" they were calling themselves.
And labor conditions at the North Pole
were alleged by the union to stifle the soul.
Four reindeer had vanished, without much propriety,
Released to the wilds by the Humane Society.
And equal employment had made it quite clear
That Santa had better not use just reindeer.
So Dancer and Donner, Comet and Cupid
Were replaced with 4 pigs, and you know that looked stupid!
The runners had been removed from his sleigh;
The ruts were termed dangerous by the E.P.A.
And people had started to call for the cops
When they heard sled noises on their rooftops.
Second-hand smoke from his pipe had his workers quite frightened.
His fur trimmed red suit was called "Unenlightened."
And to show you the strangeness of life's ebbs and flows,
Rudolf was suing over unauthorized use of his nose
And had gone on Geraldo, in front of the nation,
Demanding millions in over-due compensation.
So, half of the reindeer were gone; and his wife,
Who suddenly said she'd enough of this life,
Joined a self-help group, packed, and left in a whiz,
Demanding from now on her title was Ms.
And as for the gifts, why, he'd never had a notion
That making a choice could cause so much commotion.
Nothing of leather, nothing of fur,
Which meant nothing for him. And nothing for her.
Nothing that might be construed to pollute.
Nothing to aim, Nothing to shoot.
Nothing that clamored or made lots of noise.
Nothing for just girls, or just for the boys.
Nothing that claimed to be gender specific.
Nothing that's warlike or non-pacifistic.
No candy or sweets...they were bad for the tooth.
Nothing that seemed to embellish a truth.
And fairy tales, while not yet forbidden,
Were like Ken and Barbie, better off hidden.
For they raised the hackles of those psychological
Who claimed the only good gift was one ecological.
No baseball, no football...someone could get hurt;
Besides, playing sports exposed kids to dirt.
Dolls were said to be sexist, and should be passe;
And Nintendo would rot your entire brain away.
So Santa just stood there, disheveled, perplexed;
He just could not figure out what to do next.
He tried to be merry, tried to be gay,
But you've got to be careful with that word today.
His sack was quite empty, limp to the ground;
Nothing fully acceptable was to be found.
Something special was needed, a gift that he might
Give to all without angering the left or the right.
A gift that would satisfy, with no indecision,
Each group of people, every religion;
Every ethnicity, every hue,
Everyone, everywhere...even you.
So here is that gift, it's price beyond worth...
May you and your loved ones, enjoy peace on Earth.
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A man's life consisteth not in the abundance of the things which he possesseth. -- Luke 12:15
Nothing is enough for the man to whom enough is too little.- Epicurus
He who is plenteously provided for from within, needs but little from without. - Johann Wolfgang von Goethe
Not what we have But what we enjoy, constitutes our abundance.
John Petit-Senn Quotes
Many a man curses the rain that falls upon his head, and knows that it brings abundance to drive away hunger.
Saint Basil Quotes
To live a pure unselfish life, one must count nothing as ones own in the midst of abundance.
Doing what you love is the cornerstone of having abundance in your life.
~ Wayne Dyer
Talent is always conscious of its own abundance, and does not object to sharing.
~ Alexander Solzehnitsyn
It is not only my right and my privilege to walk in the abundance God has for me, it is my responsibility
just as it is my responsibility to live the rest of my truth.
~ Jan Denise
You cant predict, you can prepare. Experience the power of making decisions based on security instead of worry, readiness instead of reluctance, abundance instead of lack.
~ Kathy Gates
People with a scarcity mentality tend to see everything in terms of win-lose. There is only so much; and if someone else has it, that means there will be less for me. The more principle-centered we become, the more we develop an abundance mentality, the more we are genuinely happy for the successes, well-being, achievements, recognition, and good fortune of other people. We believe their success adds to
rather than detracts from
~ Stephen R. Covey
The universe operates through dynamic exchange
giving and receiving are different aspects of the flow of energy in the universe. and in our willingness to give that which we seek, we keep the abundance of the universe circulating in our lives.
Gratitude is the open door to abundance .
I keep the telephone of my mind open to peace, harmony, health, love and abundance. Then whenever doubt, anxiety, or fear try to call me, they keep getting a busy signal and soon theyll forget my number.
~ Edith Armstrong
I have the greatest of all riches: that of not desiring them.
Both abundance and lack exist simultaneously in our lives, as parallel realities. It is always our conscious choice which secret garden we will tend...when we choose not to focus on what is missing from our lives but are grateful for the abundance that's present--love, health, family, friends, work, the joys of nature and personal pursuits that bring us pleasure--the wasteland of illusion falls away and we experience Heaven on earth.
-Sarah Ban Breathnach
The test of our progress is not whether we add to the abundance of those who have much. It is whether we provide enough to those who have little.
-Franklin D. Roosevelt
"The universe is full of magical things patiently waiting for our wits to grow sharper."
"You pray in your distress and in your need; would that you might also pray in the fullness of your joy and in your days of abundance."
"Life is a field of unlimited possibilities."
"Abundance is, in large part, an attitude."
Sue Patton Thoele
"Abundance doesn't follow giving until giving becomes its own reward."
"Life in abundance comes only through great love."
"Riches are not from abundance of worldly goods, but from a contented mind."
"Not everything that can be counted counts, and not everything that counts can be counted."
"Reflect upon your blessings, of which every man has plenty, not on your past misfortunes, of which all men have some."
"The abundant life does not come to those who have had a lot of obstacles removed from their path by others. It develops from within and is rooted in strong mental and moral fiber."
-William Mather Lewis
"Your most precious, valued possessions and your greatest powers are invisible and intangible. No one can take them. You, and you alone, can give them. You will receive abundance for your giving."
-W. Clement Stone
To love abundantly is to live abundantly, and to love forever is to live forever. Henry Drummond
What is called genius is the abundance of life and health. Henry David Thoreau
When you realize there is nothing lacking, the whole world belongs to you. Lao Tzu
If there is but little water in the stream, it is the fault, not of the channel, but of the source. St. Jerome
Abundance is scooped from abundance yet abundance remains. Anne Sexton
The cause of poverty is not scarcity. It is fear and small thinking.
~ Alan Cohen
The real source of wealth and capital in this new era is not material things it is the human mind, the human spirit, the human imagination, and our faith in the future.
~ Steve Forbes
The moment one definitely commits oneself, then Providence moves, too. All sorts of things occur to help one that would never have otherwise occurred
unforeseen incidents and meetings and material assistance, which no man could have dreamed would have come his way.
~ Johann Wolfgang von Goethe
Always leave enough time in your life to do something that makes you happy, satisfied, even joyous. That has more of an effect on economic well-being than any other single factor.
~ Paul Hawken
If you want money, ask for advice; if you want advice, ask for money.
~ Peter Hero
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